Betrayed by life Part ii

“The dream i always had of being in campus was now as real as the feel of the saliva on my mouth.. Despite all the challenges, I was able to now refer to myself as a comrade…

Being a parallel student meant that others expected a flashy me for many to date think that self sponsored students are shallow brained students who happen to come from backgrounds defined by endless sources of money.

However my case was a completely different one since i was a simple girl, with a simple life, a simple personality, no cash but with a sharp intellectual mind. Since i had just a single pair of shoes, you can imagine how simple was simple…

Managing to pay fees wasn’t a problem. The hardest thing was to survive… that is buying lunch, buying lecture notes or ‘handouts’ as many of us called them, having pocket money and managing to cater for my personal needs…

At first i manged to keep my head high but with time the status of I having nothing or too little began to catch up with me. My fellow students began to make fun of my single pair of shoes… Laughing and mocking me at every chance they got…

Asking my mother for upkeep money was out of the question since she had to cater for my fees and the fees of my siblings and their general welfare. I was a big girl… I kept telling myself that.  I am a big girl…

Thereafter life became hard…

One day my cousin called. I had just skipped lunch and my stomach was growling. He worked out of town so his call meant that he was around and needed to meet with me. I asked for his location and immediately rushed to a bar within Kakamega town tht he was in.

On arrival at the pub, i quickly located him and then realized that the table was inhabited by two other men. Holding no reservations, i walked to his side and greeted him… he introduced the other two of which one was a manager of a firm in Kakamega and the other one was an engineer.

We talked for a few and after it began getting late, i begged my cousin to leave.. The manager gave my cousin his car keys and asked him to drop me home.

Upon walking out of the pub, my cousin gave me 1,000 shillings after which we headed to the car. I entered the passengers’ side and sat down. When my cousin did not enter, i got curious of what was happening and that’s when i saw the manager walking to the car.

He entered and sat on the driver’s seat. After a few minutes of small idle talk, he fished out 2,000 shillings from his pocket and asked me to go and buy soap.

I was now 3,000 shillings richer… I felt overwhelmed… I saw it as a blessing… How far from a blessing did it ultimately come to materialize..

I spent half of the money on myself and used the rest to do shopping for my family.. Upon enquiry on the source of the cash, i told my mum that i had received the same from Joe (not his real name), my cousin. Having lots of trust on me, she didn’t ask more questions…

My physique as a girl improved, i had a new pair of shoes and some few, ‘new’ second hand clothes famously known as ‘mtumba’…

Before the cash ran out, the manager called. He wanted us to meet. Not in a restaurant or a public place but in his house. Having been chatting with him, i had come to know a bit about him so i didn’t see anything wrong with the idea.

Giving me directions, i was able to locate his house in one of the serene estates within the town. He ushered me in and started showing me around the house. The kitchens, the bathrooms, the balcony, the lounge,…
The last room he showed me was his bedroom…

Upon entering, my instincts screamed at me urging me to rush out but i kept on…
He asked me to sit on the bed and i did…
The mattress was hard, and soft..i can’t quite recall…
He then sat next to me and as we talked placed his hand my thigh.. it kept moving up…
As this was happening so much crossed my mind…from my problems, to my lack of clothes, my lack of upkeep money, the struggles to keep afloat at home….

I finally gave in. The desire in his eyes was glowing and i allowed it to consume me wholly..
I slept with him.

After we were through, i dressed up feeling so dirty that the thought of even looking at myself from a bathroom mirror was too much for me to handle. As i was proceeding to the door he held my had and gave me 2, 000 shillings.

Who was i to say no? I lacked almost everything…

That became the routine..every time we slept together he gave me 2K.

I now had the ability to cater for all my needs and some of my siblings’. I could even afford to send my small sister money anytime she asked for some.

After every sexcapade, i always cried myself to sleep. How had it come to this? The pain was too much to bear… I had betrayed my faith, my family and everything i believed in.

Despite all these hurt feelings, I kept on.

At that time, It wasn’t just the manager. I had 2 other men whom we had the same kind of arrangement. I traded sex for money.

And I continued… Guest houses, lodgings and hotel rooms became my sites of operation as i searched for that extra buck to keep me going.

My first academic year was now gone and the innocent girl that had entered the lecture hall wasn’t the one leaving the same after a year…

As the days went on, i met Mike (not his real name)…a  guy different from my normal clientele. He told me how beautiful i was and what a lovely girl i had grown up into. Bearing in mind that no other man had looked at me from that perspective, that compliment really got into me.

Mike wanted me as a girlfriend. We started seeing each other but because of my side hustle, cracks started developing in our relationship. At times i couldn’t pick his call or reply his texts since i was busy servicing the needs of another man. Mistrust became too much and without my knowledge Mike had me followed.

My tail finally tracked me to a lodging within town which i was a frequent visitor and planted a listening device inside the room. I brought a client there, we did what we had to do but on this particular day we argued a lot with this client. I felt that i was betraying Mike and also the man’s wife and children. According to my conscience, i didn’t want to be a ‘marriage breaker’.

Everything was recorded on tape which became the first thing Mike played for me when we met later that day.

I didn’t know what to say to him. He was hurt. I could tell from the lost look in his eyes… I felt like trash. I felt worthless. Mike cried but i had no words to say to him… I finally decided to  leave but as i was doing so he held my had, pulled me back and we had some passionate love making.

A month later, i missed my monthly periods. I was pregnant. Having been using condoms with all other men, i concluded that Mike was the father of the child I was carrying.

I wasn’t ready to be a mother. I didn’t have the means to carry the baby to full term let alone bring up the child to maturity.

I had to get rid of the baby. Upon informing Mike about my condition and my decision, he would hear none of it. He told me that if i attempted to abort, I had two options, to be ready to either face my parents with the truth or the police!

I was at crossroads! Upon days of self deliberation i decided to go along with the abortion. I reasoned that if he was ready face my parents, he had to be ready to tell them that he was the father of the baby, a thing i knew he wouldn’t attempt.

The problem now was to raise the money required to procure an abortion. I had no one to turn to or ask for help from. Miraculously i managed to get 3,000 bob and contacted a doctor who did away with the pregnancy.

Then the bleeding started. Heavy bleeding… It was never ceasing… During all this i had to do house chores before attending lectures. Since i didn’t want my mother to notice, i had to be as normal as possible…

It wasn’t easy. Walking to class took me 35 minutes, a distance i normally walked with less than 15 minutes. Days passed without improvement and that’s when i contacted the doctor who prescribed some pills that would help with the flow. One pill cost 75 shillings. I dragged myself to a chemist in town and bought 4 of these.

Miraculously, it took only one pill to stop the bleeding completely!

By this time, I had hit rock bottom. Some of my classmates had noticed that something was amiss and rumours started flying all around that i had had an abortion. My self esteem vanished in totality and all i could do was sit at the back of the class and avoid peoples’ eyes as much as i could…

Over time I recovered from the horrific incident and i became determined to change… A few months later my granny passed on. This shook my family to the roots  and this is when i realized that my family really needed me. Not just physically but in truthfulness, honesty and also emotionally…

Since then I have been trying to be a better me. I have had setbacks here and there but the determination to beat the odds is what keeps me going…

I have come to learn that nothing in life comes easy. But Even with the reality of this truth dawning on us everyday, we should never compromise our integrity or the purity of our conscience all for the achievement of a tertiary want.

I have had sex. A lot of it. Maybe hata iliniharibu…”

Campus Girl.

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