If Njoki chege only meets ‘boys’, i am tempted to ask myself to what destination all gentlemen have flown. Is it the institution of marriage? I convincingly doubt that. But nonetheless, her definition of a gentleman seems to strongly deviate from mine since the former is characterized by how much money one is willing to throw around lasses with overblown attitudes who aren’t willing to work their asses off to drive the >3 million car that they are so desperate to cruise around town in.
Opening doors over time I have come to be told is one aspect of acting a gentleman but i think the men in Njoki’s life only open house doors but not Rover doors that she so much wants opened.
From what she writes, Scandal is one TV series that she is currently watching. Does she look up to Olivia? Is that the kind of life she so much longs to live? One whose core aspect involves dating a Sitting president? The life of a fixer? A life that everything has to be in place?
For those who don’t have a clue as to what scandal is all about, let me give you an idea… ABC.com describes it this way..
“Everyone has secrets… and Olivia Pope (Kerry Washington) has dedicated her life to protecting and defending the public images of the nation’s elite by keeping those secrets under wraps. Pope’s team are at the top of their game when it comes to getting the job done for their clients, but it becomes apparent that these “gladiators in suits,” who specialize in fixing the lives of other people, have trouble fixing those closest at hand –their own.”
The reason I chose that storyline is because mine is too opinionated to objective. (Njoki has everything to blame for this).
What we watch alone tells a lot about what personality traits we so desperately want to hide from the world and unfortunately at times from our own selves. Maybe the Njokis want to identify with these characters that Shonda Rhimes has so much tried to create.
The secrets that the ‘gladiators’ day after day struggle with are maybe what endear them to Njoki and her kind who have pickups full of them. Remember, they are just and only ‘Characters’.
Olivia gets involved with married Grant showing no respect for his wife or even the institution of marriage for that matter. Maybe Shonda had Njoki in mind when she created Olivia’s character based on the fact that she can only find gentleman tendencies only in married men. Not even Edison Davis – A Senator possessed them. Talk about high standards.
Njoki, you bash men, left right and center forgetting the important fact that these gentlemen that seem to only exist in your mind came from somewhere. Leave alone driving the Subarus that seem to irk you so much but truth be told, some of them had to withstand the morning Nairobi traffic all in an effort to secure the >3Million car that define your daily dreams.
Suppose, you were lucky enough to dig your claws into such a man, ( am not saying you will, on second thought I highly doubt you ever will) what would you bring to the table? Your oversized ego that’s even too big to fit in his extensive mansion? Maybe you even think that the university degree(s) you will possess by then might even be enough bargain… Ama will it be your beauty? Because I am sure your manicured nails will be too precious to hurt (as if they have feelings) by washing or even cooking for him. What will you offer him that will make him stay?
Men are control freaks. With this as the cold truth, i doubt if any will stomach your guts for a week leave alone a lifetime. Isn’t that how long the vows are supposed to last? Not unless yours will have the clause “until poverty, loss of the Range Rover, my attitude e.t.c” do us part. (Notice the e.t.c) Maybe kama utamkalia chapo as my Kamba colleagues call it.
In addition, what man will stand a woman who knows that all she sees in him is the cash, the hype, the car and the bank account?
Being desirable isn’t just about being educated, being attractive or even being fluent. Being humble and appreciating others for who they are is a core aspect of the process.
Njoki, there is a tough and long road ahead. Your bloated ego will at one time be injured, badly. Your attitude will be too severed that 310 will be too little to give hope to your troubles.
But also, who knows, Maybe there’s a crazier male version of yourself out there waiting for you to run into his hook?
Ama pia, maybe you’re just like every other young Kenyan out there – struggling to make ends meet. The difference is that for you, for these ends to meet, a man, I mean a rich man must act as the intermediary.
In this era, when women are struggling for equality, you still believe that for you to be completely you, a man must pay several hundreds of thousands of shillings to make your extra hour a quality one.
Get a life. Better still climb a notch lower. Kenya has 100 problems, you don’t have to be one of them. In fact, you have no right to appear on the list.