I never intended to write anything about this whole #MyDressingMyChoice debate but based on how heated everything has become, let me say a word or two about this whole storm.
Let me begin by saying that anyone who strips another in broad daylight without their consent is a criminal and he/she deserves a date with Mutunga and his comrades later to be escorted and be a guest of the state in a pitless hole somewhere.
Stripping others is unimaginable, distasteful, shameless and it portrays the highest degree of hooliganimism and barbaric tendencies that have grown to threatening levels in some of our fellow countrymen.
Who defines decency? Who comes up with what’s acceptably decent for everyone? Who has the moral authority to judge others based on their choice of dressing? Is it the church? Is it the court? Is it the general society? Is it me? Is it you?
The issue of dressing is a controversial one just like Njoki’s definition of the man of her dreams. I don’t have a specific answer for all the above questions.
When I am in such a fix, I turn to the Bible since I am a believer. What does God say about our choice of clothing? What does the Bible refer to as acceptable?
“I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds appropriate for women who profess to worship God.
(NIV, 1 Timothy 2:9-10)”
On this passage, the Bible talks of decency and modesty.Modesty being a mode of dressing intended to avoid encouraging sexual attraction in others;Decency on the other hand describes a choice of behavior that conforms to accepted standards of morality or respectability.
Before I comment any more, here is another passage…
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.
(NIV, 1 Peter 3:2-5)”
The second passage sums it all up. It’s all about who you are on the inside. The beliefs that guide your day to day existence and the code of ethics and morality that define your true personality.
The above not withstanding, it’s important for us all to acknowledge the fact that we still exist in a conservative society which takes everything at face value.
I think the reason Muslim ladies dorn those long black outfits is to preserve their decency.
You dress skimpilly, you’re a slut! Plain and simple. To a higher percentage of the society, rocking that extra tight trouser or extra short skirt that outlines every curve you’re adorned with is uncomfortable and to some unacceptable. That’s the society, not me!
Everyone has a right to wear whatever it is they are comfortable in. However before you step out of that single establishment somewhere in Nairobi, remember there’s a big difference between slutty, trashy and classy. Bear in mind that not everyone thinks and looks at things from the same perspective you do.
Your dressing is your choice. No one is challenging that fact. However we have to accept that traversing the streets of Nairobi in an almost nude attire is totally unacceptable. You may get away with the attire inside campus but out here we are of different ages, educational levels, insanity indexes, stupidity levels, and the concentration of testosterone running through some men out here is not sustainable. Out here people are diverse unlike in campus where most of you are in the same age bracket. More importantly, kumbuka in campus hakuna Embassava touts.
The Kili-money mothers may not mind that too short ultra tight outfit but bear in mind that there’s only one Kilimani in Kenya! Still, these mothers make 0.1% of Kenyan mothers.
All the same, Tobiko should hurry up and prosecute those shameless touts. Some behaviours have no place in our current dispensation!